How to Build Your Personal Support Network When Living Solo
When you live alone, the people around you matter. A support network does not need to be large. It needs to be dependable. Here is a simple way to build one.
Think in circles
- Closest circle: the few people you would call first.
- Nearby circle: neighbors and friends who live close.
- Community circle: clubs, groups, classes, and congregations.
- Work circle: Your co-workers who you might hang out with.
- Professional circle: the people and services you rely on for expert help.
Step 1: Write down who is in each circle
Start with names and phone numbers. Seeing them on paper shows you where you are strong and where you would like more connection.
Step 2: Choose a regular check-in
Ask someone you trust to be your regular check-in. A short call or text on a schedule you both like is enough. Offer to do the same for them. In fact choosing someone else who may live alone might be a great idea. Explain the concept, show them this post.
Step 3: Meet your neighbors
Introduce yourself to one or two neighbors. Exchange phone numbers if you are both comfortable. You may be surprised that some of the neighbors already have a neighborhood group text list. We have one in our neighborhood and when somethings happening or someone needs something or looking for a recommendation they just text it to the group. No conversations needed. Come to think of it the same technique could be used in the regular check-in mentioned in Step 2 above. Just a simple text can do. A friendly neighbor is a real strength.
Step 4: Keep your essentials in one place
Keep a list of your key contacts and a note of where your important papers are. Share it with one trusted person. Our free checklist can help you get started.
Step 5: Add community connections
Join something regular, such as a class, a club, or a volunteer shift.
Step 6: Know your local resources
Learn what is available before you need it. A good place to start with the Eldercare Locator, a public service of the Administration for Community Living that connects you to local services for older adults. Virginia’s state aging office, the Department for Aging and Rehabilitative Services, can also point you to your local Area Agency on Aging.
Keep it going
Networks stay strong when you tend them. Return favors, say thank you, and check in on others. Giving support is part of getting it.
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